It’s all about shame
Shame – there’s something wrong with me. If we had no shame we would be confident to live intentionally without striving.
When I do Prayer Ministry with a client there is a key shift that happens. We work through some painful event where the person was very hurt. As we get to the other side there is a comment in one form or another that says, “It wasn’t about me, the other person was really wounded. I see now Father loves me. I feel compassion for the other.”
A shift from “it’s about me” to “the other is really hurt”. This is a shift from shame to dignity.
Great short post! I notice the same thing.. in fact, that is the very thing that drew me to release my father for his decades of hurting us all with his alcoholism… he was so wounded, it stopped being about me the victim, and became about him the wounded one, and releasing him became easy. The result…. we are both free to live better, and free to love eachother! Thanks for the insight Robert!
Thanks for the post Bob, great testimony!