No Points For Trying

June 5, 2010 By cyndi 6 Comments

By Cyndi

Do you ever feel like you have to live up to expectations that seem higher than you can fulfill? Do you live with pressure from others to perform to perfection, and if you don’t, you’re not accepted? Many of us live in daily stress, hoping to gain acceptance from what we do or don’t do.

Acceptance can come in many forms. It can be a promotion or an increase in pay at our job, a pat on the back from our coach, the words “Nice work!” written on the top of a page from a teacher, or a loving glance from our spouse.Whatever it might be, and from whomever it may come, each of us have a God-given need for acceptance. Unfortunately, the world teaches us we have to do something to get it. And not just do something, but do it right. That’s it—it’s either black or white, right or wrong—no points for trying.

My father used to have a saying: “Don’t tell me you can’t, tell me you’ll try.” I think he realized there were many things in life that seem like insurmountable obstacles, and just because you can’t get it right the first time, doesn’t mean you don’t get points for trying. History records multiple accounts of those who didn’t succeed the first time—Abraham Lincoln, Babe Ruth, Thomas Edison. Sometimes we will strike out many times before we will set any world records, but that doesn’t mean we should give up. We can learn from our failed attempts.

God accepts us whether we get things right or not. Oh, I believe He wants us to try—-(see James 1:3 & 1 Peter 1:7) -–and the “points” we get for trying are scored by our growth and maturity in the Lord. We have some high standards put before us, like the Ten Commandments, that seem higher than we can fulfill, but these have nothing to do with how much Father God loves and accepts us.

Our acceptance is not based on our performance, but on His love. 1 John 4:19 says, “He first loved us.” We are His children and He loves us simply because of who we are, not for what we do. But this doesn’t mean we should stop trying, but only try from the safety of knowing you are already loved and accepted just the way you are.

Filed Under: Christianity, destiny Tagged With: acceptance, Christianity

How to Fulfill Your Calling

May 28, 2010 By robert 3 Comments

By Robert

Know your design

It takes time and effort to know ourselves, to discover what makes us tick. You could start by asking yourself, “What comes natural to me?” I know a lady who found it came easy to study and that others naturally felt safe around her. She dove in and researched every conceivable aspect of Prayer Ministry. People started coming and receiving help. She saw people with very deep trauma healed time after time, and she quickly became a leader in the field. The redemptive gifts are the best tool I know of to help discover your design. Is it natural for you to make friends and influence people? Is it more natural to lead people and organize things to reach a goal? Do you get fulfillment working behind the scenes to make things happen?

Gain a skill set

Knowing our design helps us zero in on developing a skill set. In the example above, the lady focused on studying Prayer Ministry. I know of another lady that focused on mobilizing seniors to be a support to ministries around the city. Maybe your focus might be relational evangelism and you could become excellent at it and can effectively impart it to others. Maybe your area is finances and you could offer your services to small business owners and non-profit leaders in the Body of Christ. An accountant or doctor might realize they are particularly good at something, and could work hard to develop that niche.

Serving well brings Favor and Support

Once we have a skill set, we can become life-giving with it by serving others. As we serve well, people will begin talking about it. We will get word-of-mouth, free advertising! As that grows, others will come along and get under us and support our efforts because they see it really helps people.

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It is often a mystery to people as to how they can fulfill the unique thing God has called them to do. In reality, there are practical steps. God wants us all to walk in what He has designed us all to be. Nothing is more fulfilling than walking in what you were made to do.

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Filed Under: Christianity, Counseling, calling, purpose Tagged With: calling, Christianity, design, designed, destiny

Marry Me or Go to Hell

May 16, 2010 By cyndi 6 Comments

What a statement! Could you imagine this as a marriage proposal? Picture a beautiful candlelight dinner on a balcony, the woman’s face silhouetted by the setting sun on the horizon, her long hair flowing in the gentle breeze. The man fidgets in his pocket and brings forth a small black velvet box, opens it up to reveal an elegant diamond ring, then looks into the soft eyes of his beloved and says, “Marry me, or go to hell.”

How about this scenario: You and a friend are meeting for lunch. You’ve been thinking about sharing the gospel with him for quite some time. The two of you are sitting at the local sub shop, patrons are noisily chatting at nearby tables, and the smell of deli meats and cheeses permeate the air.  You fidget with the words in your mind, nervously take a tract out of your pocket, place it on the table next to the half-eaten pickle on his plate and say, “Accept Jesus, or you will go to hell.”

No one has ever threatened me to do something wonderful. If we were going to Disney World, my parents didn’t have to force me to get into the car. Usually the threat of punishment was used to manipulate me to endure an unpleasant experience, not a good one. So why should we threaten people with hell if what we’re offering them is so great?

What if the gospel was presented more as a surrender to love, rather than a fear of hell? How can we ever grow in intimacy—between us and the Lord, or any other person—if the beginning of our relationship is based in fear?

Filed Under: Christianity, Father's Love Tagged With: Christianity, evangelism, fear

I Want to Pray

September 5, 2009 By robert Leave a Comment

What leads us to make such a statement? Life is somehow not all put together without the element of prayer. There is a real sense of need. There is an incompleteness, an inability to cope with or adequately respond to life’s demands. We sense a need to fall back on prayer.

The needs of others, which duty or love or both demand we experience in some way as our own, do nudge us or even compel us to be in touch with our own needs-needs that are in fact very much the same.

There surface in us if we dare leave enough space in our rushed lives to allow it, or if circumstances, as they often do, trap us in a situation where we can’t avoid it, some of our own needs-above all, perhaps, our loneliness, our incompleteness, our lacks, our inability to be and to do what we want. Excerpt from Centering Prayer, M. Basil Pennington

Filed Under: Christianity Tagged With: Christianity, prayer

Seeking God in Father’s Love

July 19, 2006 By robert Leave a Comment

Seeking God in Father’s Love

  Isaiah 66:1, 2 Thus says the Lord: “Heaven is My throne, And earth is My footstool. Where is the house that you will build Me? And where is the place of My rest? Vs.2 For all those things My hand has made, And all those things exist,” Says the Lord. “But on this one will I look: On him who is poor and of a contrite spirit, And who trembles at My word.”      At one time in my Christian walk I would study the Bible from 8 in the morning until noon each day, I would awake at 5:30am and go to my church to pray each day. It seemed like almost everyday I would try to fast. Most days I ended up buying a box of Captain Crunch cereal and eating the whole thing! I wanted to have Smith Wigglesworth’s anointing. I sought intimacy with God but I sought it wrongly, through trying to build God something, through my works, to build an anointing and enough sacrifice to please Him. I had not learned to simply receive what He freely offers through humility And Brokenness. God desires for us to know Him but because of misconceptions we have about who our Father is we often end up discouraged because our efforts do not bear the fruits we had hoped. We try to build Him something, we try to do something. The very act of trying to do for God ends up keeping us from Him. Ps.131:1-2 Lord, my heart is not haughty, Nor my eyes lofty. Neither do I concern myself with great matters, Nor with things too profound for me. Surely I have calmed and quieted my soul, Like a weaned child with his mother; Like a weaned child is my soul within me. It takes humility to let go of our own efforts and simply receive but it brings a glorious freedom.Zach.4:6…Not by might nor by power, but by My Spirit,’ Says the LORD of hosts.Ps.127:1 Unless the Lord builds the house, They labor in vain who build it… Check out Jack Frost’s article on Rest  http://www.shilohplace.org/Downloads/Articles/Article29-WhenWeStrive.pdf

Filed Under: Father's Love, How to Change, Jack Frost Tagged With: Christianity, humility, love