Comments on: The Crossing of Emotional Boundaries

By: Pam Oglesby

Pam Oglesby — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 00:53:13 +0000

Hi Cyndi, This is an excellent article that describes me perfectly. I am somewhat better than I used to be but I sill have trouble setting boundaries sometimes. I think it has affected by health as well, and it is something I am working on. It was really good to read this in print and think about what I need to change. Thank you for a good article. Love, Pam

By: lois

lois — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 01:32:18 +0000

an excellent teaching by arthur burk in his sonship series helped me considerably. he was pointing out the seven models of healing that coincided with the seven redemptive gifts. God gave arthur further revelation that there were also seven components of proper fathering. type A father wounds (the absence of things we needed and didn’t get) are in all of us! the things that we did not get in childhood, we crave in adulthood. the servant model is when the child does not have the priveledge of ‘exploring’. we then find as adults we lose ourselves trying to live out in our 40′s what we couldn’t live out when we were two yrs old. (searching and daydreaming..) we can recognize in these 7 ways of parenting where our deficeits are. the good news (acc’d to arthur) is God is already working to transform and heal us. he is committed to ‘reparenting’ us thru the daily stuff of life. we need to recognise and partner with him in his agenda for us to be fully reparented, to make us sons not slaves. ..we are on a journey together and i am glad for people who have woken up to see ‘things are not what they seem’. we need new tools, fresh bread and a God who is intimately pursuiing his bride..Jesus is near and that thought keeps me thru it all.

By: cyndi

cyndi — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 20:28:35 +0000

@lois You're so right. We don't always question why we do or don't do things. well put! Roots are tough to find sometimes.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 20:22:39 +0000

@Eliz That's a great idea! Maybe I'll do that too.

By: Darla

Darla — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 15:47:15 +0000

Thank you for posting that blog. I have not heard those thoughts / truths articulated in such a way. Very insightful! Blessings!

By: lois

lois — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 10:51:48 +0000

having an awareness of something and being able to put language to it is something i am learning to do and celebrate. so many times we just go thru the motions and don’t question why we do or don’t do a certain thing. getting to the root is even better, painful but better. facing who we are and then realizing that we can change with God’s grace is amazing. thank you for putting language to an age old problem of mine. i would often marvel at other’s ability to make decisions! i am learning how, now that i know why i never could.

By: Eliz

Eliz — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 06:11:14 +0000

Thanks for sharing this… I too struggle in this area… Still learning how to voice my opinion, instead of just allowing people to make them for me. In fact, I tried to start a journal that jots down the things I do like..

By: lynn lindsay

lynn lindsay — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:12:11 +0000

Hi again Cyndi
Just tried to get Robert’s CD series from Amazon uk, but it’s not listed, so tried Amazon.com and although I found Robert’s CD’s on Amazon.com, they can’t mail it to me here in Scotland.
Is there any other way I could get it mailed to me?
Lynn

By: lynn lindsay

lynn lindsay — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:59:01 +0000

Thanks Cyndi
Will look on Amazon for Robert’s CD series.
I know God hasn’t put me on a scrap heap, but I feel I’ve done that because of where I’ve been and feel I’ve let Him and myself and others down too!
I just Thank Father God for He is the prodigal’s Father and it’s not over till He says so, and He specialises in those who can’t help themselves; just Long to be who He made me to be

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 18:22:46 +0000

Lynn, first of all, you're not pathetic and useless. We all have a purpose and value in Father God's sight. For me, it was only when I learned how much Father truly loved me, did I begin to get a sense of my own worth. I would recommend a CD series Robert has, Experiencing Father's Love, that may help. We have it listed on Amazon, under Robert Hartzell. Know that God never puts us on a scrap heap.Take care and stay in touch.@lynn lindsay